Faith

Christianity, Candy, and the Stories We’re Handed

He struggled. He overheard the adults whispering, as if his inability to recite the memory verse made him unable to hear their criticism. As if he were immune to the insensitivity. One adult actually asked him, “Why can’t you be more like your siblings?” The candy didn’t pass his lips, and the badges were conspicuously missing from his sash. She excelled. She heard the adults openly praise her for her superior...
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As a Family

4 Things We Learned in April

1. How quickly we forget We watched our adorable one-year old nephew this month. Even though he’s less than two years younger than our youngest, I was amazed by how much I’d forgotten about one-year olds. Their sweet open mouth kisses, their easy excitement, and their ability to get into places you forgot existed! 2. Self-care is worth it How often I lay this aside. But a haircut and...
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Inspiration

On Doing the Work

You know what’s fun? Coming up with real-life solutions to perplexing problems. Solving the mystery of something that isn’t working quite right. Analyzing a dilemma until the perfect fix is found. This may or may not sound like a blast to you, but as an INTJ, I love theorizing. And planning. And tweaking. What I don’t love? Doing the actual work. If I could get paid to simply troubleshoot while...
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Parenting

On Kids, Bodies, and Boundaries

I recently witnessed a Facebook debate about the acceptability of kids refusing to show physical affection to strangers, family friends, or even their own parents. I was quite surprised when several adults chimed in and appeared to say that it’s unacceptable and disrespectful for a child to say, “No” to a hug. That even if a kiddo isn’t in the mood, they shouldn’t be allowed to break a loved...
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Parenting

Fostering Open Communication with Young Kids

The last month has been full of deep conversation with my oldest. And my 2-year old is constantly narrating the stories going on in his head. Thankfully my kiddos are comfortable asking the questions that pop into their minds. Most of the time we can talk about pretty much anything. But sometimes, when my kids know what they’ve done is wrong or they feel embarrassed about something, they clam up. Or they’ll...
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Love Deeply

Sibling Stories

Every time we get together we tell the same stories. We laugh about one brother pushing the other through the big picture window. We cringe as we recall that after weeks of begging us to help her, our little sister gave up and taught herself to ride her bike. We try to convince our spouses that spam burgers are where it’s at. We pester and argue and push each other’s buttons as we...
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Parenting

On Correlation, Causation, and Parenting

Sometimes I lurk on  parenting forums where I’ve found valuable information about some specific situations with my pregnancies and my kiddos. But I’ve noticed an interesting trend during my lurking. Parents tend to think, good or bad, their kids’ actions are a direct result of something the parents did. The other day a mom lamented about her toddler’s behavior. Another mom responded that her toddler doesn’t do that kind of...
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