Loving Others

On Assumptions

  As we finish up our week, what if we set aside our assumptions? About our spouse’s motives. About what’s going on inside our kid’s head. About our coworkers’ intentions. What if instead we ask questions? What if we stop assuming that people know what we’re thinking or what we mean without adequate explanation? What if we make our needs and wishes known? What if we check our assumption that the...
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Loving Others

For Everyone Who Ever Grew Up

Maybe you were labeled the class clown. The shy one. The reckless one. The know-it-all. Maybe you were the smart one. The one going places. Maybe your current reality doesn’t match their fantasy. Maybe that stupid mistake you made 13 years ago somehow gets brought up every summer at your family reunion. Or the whole family spends Christmas Eve with scandalous stories swirling in their heads, but no one dares talk...
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Love Deeply

Sibling Stories

Every time we get together we tell the same stories. We laugh about one brother pushing the other through the big picture window. We cringe as we recall that after weeks of begging us to help her, our little sister gave up and taught herself to ride her bike. We try to convince our spouses that spam burgers are where it’s at. We pester and argue and push each other’s buttons as we...
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Loving Others

The Unedited Version

  I used to look back through my journals and panic because my writing was so negative. I began to wonder if my past was just a big jumble of hurt. Then I realized I don’t really journal. Journaling would imply I sit down and write about things on a semi-regular basis. But I only write in my journal when I’m working through a difficult interaction or a tough issue. When life...
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Love Deeply

On What We Deserve

Recently I was watching Hulu when a commercial for a hotel came on. It pictured parents in one room and their kids in an adjoining room loudly jumping on the beds. The dad was opening and closing the door between the rooms, amazed at how quiet it was when the door was shut. The commercial ended by saying everyone (or every parent) deserves a two-room suite. Now, a two-room...
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Live Simply

When You’re Vacillating Between Jealousy and Judgment

My life often feels a bit countercultural. We haven’t done preschool. We homeschool. We only have one car. (And a moped). The four of us live in a two bedroom apartment. We try to embrace our limits. The kids aren’t super involved in extracurricular activities. We work really hard not to have too much stuff…toys, clothes, you name it. We’re working really hard (not super successfully) at not being busy. And...
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Love Deeply

Buggies, Shopping Carts, and Carriages

One of the first things you notice upon arriving in a new region of our incredibly diverse country, is the local accent. This is quickly followed by differences in pronunciations, colloquial phrases, and actual names for things. I’ll never forget when we arrived in Alabama to candidate for my husband’s pastoral position and someone announced they would carry us to church and then carry us to a restaurant afterward. Thankfully...
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