Marriage

Mike Pence, the Billy Graham Rule, and my Pastor-Husband

A few weeks back, a story broke about Mike Pence's decision not to eat alone with women other than his wife (sometimes referred to as the Billy Graham Rule). There's been praise for his commitment to his marriage, accusations of sexism, and many discussions about gender and the workplace. As a pastor's wife, sometimes I'm asked my opinion on the Billy Graham Rule. People want to know if I'm okay with…
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Love Deeply

Some Thoughts On My Teenage Marriage

At the age of 12, I decided not to date until I got to college. Preferably until I graduated. I didn't have time for boys. Dating was for marriage, I had a plan, and it didn't include love. I got married at 18. After graduating high school in May, I said "I do" in August. Yes, this means I wore an engagement ring to school the last 6 months of my…
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Marriage

11 Things I’ve Learned in 11 Years of Marriage

This past weekend, Dan and I celebrated 11 years of marriage. Here are 11 things I've learned in the last 11 years. 1. Marriage is Awesome I can honestly say I love being married. 2. Marriage is Hard Work Just because I love being married doesn't mean we don't have to work hard at it. We work hard. Sometimes very, very hard. 3. Shared Experiences Make for Deep Intimacy There's…
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Marriage

When You Can’t Give 100%

Popular marriage advice says it's not about both spouses giving 50%. Instead, each spouse should give 100%. And I think that's great advice. But the thing is, sometimes you don't have 100% to give. Or at least your 100% looks like a lot less than normal. And that's okay. There have been times in our 10 years of marriage where we've both been able to give 100% and it's been…
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Faith

Our Family Mission Statement

About six months ago we finally finalized our family mission statement. This family mission statement thing has been good for us. Writing it. Putting it up on our wall (our 10 year anniversary present to ourselves). Seeing it everyday. I think it'd be good for your family, too. No pressure, though. I took us two years from when we first started talking about it to actually get it down on…
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Marriage

10 Years, Baby!

A decade of marriage. Unbelievable. I feel old. Except not. I also feel incredibly blessed. While I think all marriages take hard work, I'm so grateful for a husband who's always willing to put forth the effort. A husband who doesn't keep score and puts the target on the wall. I admire his patience and his kindness. And I love that he admires things about me. We've been through a…
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Babies & Toddlers

Thanks for Stopping By

A just for fun look at what's brought some of you to my Google keywords. too much stuff Here are some clutter reducing habits. tping Yeah, that was fun. we are expecting Cool. Us too. what are your thoughts on preschool education Well, since you when we apologize to our kids We model humility, vulnerability and help them extend grace. put a target on any wall Or just on the…
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