Marriage

I Still Like Him

Nine years after we said "I do." And I still love him. But more than that, I still like him. And I like that after nine years of marriage, I would still choose to hang out with him over anyone else. I like him. For who he is. And for who he's not. Happy Anniversary, Dan. You're still my best friend.  
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Marriage

Four Awesome Things About Marriage

While I can't say marriage is always easy, I can say that I love being married. There are numerous reasons why, but here are four I'm thinking about right now: 1. I don't have to say goodbye We all say goodbye a lot. To our extended family after a visit. To our friends after church. Someday I'll say goodbye to my daughter after visiting her home. I hated saying goodbye…
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The Worst Chore Ever

Do you have a chore you absolutely despise doing? I'm not one to love chores in the first place, but my most dreaded chore is doing dishes. I loathe it. Some people talk about how doing dishes by hand is relaxing. I'm happy for them and they can come relax at my house anytime. Our first 8 years of marriage we did not have a dishwasher. So there were a…
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Marriage

Put the Target on the Wall

Have you ever gotten into an argument with your spouse and realized you were attacking each other when the reality is, you both wanted the same thing? Try taking the target off each other and putting it on the wall. When we stop pointing our arrows at each other's chests, put the target on the wall, and start shooting our arrows toward the problem instead of the person, progress happens.…
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Marriage

Notice Your Spouse (Out Loud)

I am not a particularly observant person, especially when it comes to the everyday matters of life. If you got your hair cut and I didn't notice please don't take offense. I'm trying to improve. But no matter how observant we are, we have a tendency to be the least observant of our mates. Or perhaps more accurately, we are less observant of the stacked dishwasher or the spontaneous back…
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Marriage

PSA: Marriage is Hard Work

I've heard a couple of celebrities mention that marriage shouldn't take work. It should be easy. So here's my public service announcement for the day: that's ridiculous. Marriage is hard work. And I'm saying that as someone who has never, ever, not even for a split second regretted marrying my husband. I'm saying that as someone who believes I hit the jackpot in the husband area (and he didn't do…
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Faith

Two Lessons from Two Great Dads

My dad taught me that blood is cool. And so is thunder. This has come in handy in a few emergency situations where I needed to keep calm. I could recall many other lessons he taught me, but I'll highlight one that sticks out to me today: Blood isn't thicker than truth. Or, "I won't take your side just because you're my kid. And you shouldn't take mine just because…
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