As a Kiddo

How & Why We Do Allowance

As a kid, my mom gave me money to spend at the canteen for overnight camp. My 4th, 5th, and 6th grade self would return home with most of 's. While my friends would buy overpriced t-shirts and load up on super-sized pixie sticks, I would buy one small snack each day and promptly return the money to my mother at week's end. I've always hated spending money. Even now…
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Loving Others

Why We’re Not Trying to Raise Color Blind Kids

My rather observant, extremely verbal 3-year old is currently quite curious about skin color. He keeps pointing it out wherever we go. The other day he methodically studied our friend with darker skin, putting his arm up next to his and looking at the differences, commenting on the parts of our friend's skin that are darker or lighter than others. And I have to say, every time our son points out…
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Parenting

How Routines Relieve Guilt & Decision Fatigue

Ever since having kids, my ability to quickly process information and make rational decisions has diminished. Greatly. Which means when my son is begging me to play with him, or my daughter is whining for screen time, my thoughts can quickly spiral. Example? I play with you a lot and it is totally reasonable for you to play on your own right now. It's good for kids to be independent players.…
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Parenting

Finding the Magic

A Tuesday in Early Spring The kids head to the backyard around 8:30 and play well together until lunch. During my daughter's favorite ballet class, my son and I got to explore a trail for 45 minutes. "You be a storm trooper and I'll be Han Solo. I found a stick! Be mama for a minute and pick me up so I can throw it in the water!" Our daughter took off on her…
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Parenting

On Kids, Bodies, and Boundaries

I recently witnessed a Facebook debate about the acceptability of kids refusing to show physical affection to strangers, family friends, or even their own parents. I was quite surprised when several adults chimed in and appeared to say that it's unacceptable and disrespectful for a child to say, "No" to a hug. That even if a kiddo isn't in the mood, they shouldn't be allowed to break a loved one's…
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Parenting

Fostering Open Communication with Young Kids

The last month has been full of deep conversation with my oldest. And my 2-year old is constantly narrating the stories going on in his head. Thankfully my kiddos are comfortable asking the questions that pop into their minds. Most of the time we can talk about pretty much anything. But sometimes, when my kids know what they've done is wrong or they feel embarrassed about something, they clam up. Or they'll declare…
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Parenting

On Correlation, Causation, and Parenting

© 2013 Simon Cunningham, Flickr | CC-BY | via Wylio Sometimes I lurk on  parenting forums where I've found valuable information about some specific situations with my pregnancies and my kiddos. But I've noticed an interesting trend during my lurking. Parents tend to think, good or bad, their kids' actions are a direct result of something the parents did. The other day a mom lamented about her toddler's behavior. Another…
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