Love Deeply

Today I Loved My Kids Well

This is my new mantra: "Today, my goal is to love my kids well." See, I like goals and getting things done. I abhor clutter and really like checklists. I like my success to be daily and tangible and measurable. But these things I like and motherhood often don't mix. Which means I, like many moms, get to the end of the day and wonder what on God's green earth…
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Parenting

Raising Sexually Healthy Preschoolers

In my first (and only) semester of grad school, I took a course on human sexuality. The content was fascinating and sobering. The discussions were lively - led by our 80-something professor who was more comfortable talking about sexuality than anyone I know. Yesterday, I pulled out a research paper I wrote for the class about raising sexually healthy preschoolers because, well, I have one of those now. Here are some…
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Parenting

On Celebrating Others

Nina and I started blogging around the same time. Our oldest kids are very close in age and our next kiddos (twins for her!) are pretty close as well. I don't remember how we found each other, but pretty soon Nina and I were regularly commenting on each other's blog posts and eventually did some guest posts for each other. So much of what she said mirrored my own life…
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Parenting

The Best Myth

From the second we conceive a child, our eyes are opened to all the ways we can do best by said child. Prenatal vitamins are best. But be sure to get the ones derived from whole food sources so you're not ingesting poison. Natural childbirth is best. As long as it doesn't stress you out. Because stress is bad too. Breast is best. But do make sure you cover up.…
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Parenting

This Thing Called Motherhood

My kind, gracious, smart, beautiful little girl turned 6 this past weekend. I can't even fathom that I've been doing this mothering thing for six years now. Longer if you include the 3 months of puking and the 4 months of bedrest. And in six years I haven't figured out much. Because this motherhood thing is a constant twist and turn through a paradoxical maze that occasionally likes to flip upside…
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Parenting

The Story of Our Lives

When dinner is coming out of the oven, just slightly burnt. And the kids are reminding you it's the witching hour. And your husband walks in the door late for the 3rd time this week. Hands are hurriedly washed. The table is haphazardly set. The gaggle of arms and legs finally finds a seat. Prayers are said and the recounting begins. We remember our day out loud. And what do…
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Faith

We Don’t Do Perfect Here

Dear Daughter, As a female on this planet, somewhere along the way you're probably going to get the idea that perfection is the goal. And that not only are you expected to be perfect, you must make it appear effortless. So you're going to think that if you just work hard enough you can make everything okay. If you're meek enough, gentle enough, resourceful enough, strong enough, whatever enough, you can…
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