Faith

A Step Towards Contentment

Living in the moment is extremely difficult for me.  I am constantly planning, strategizing and imagining. I don't do it on purpose; it's the INTJ in me. It's who I am and what I've always done.  And it's not all bad.  I am rarely surprised by a situation's outcome because I've thought through all the most likely scenarios.  I consistently look to make things better and can see how actions…
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"Normal"

In my undergrad abnormal psychology class we discussed the definition of "normal" regularly throughout the semester.   The conclusion: "normal" is hard to define. So let's stop it.  Let's stop comparing our kids to their friends.  Let's stop scrutinizing our parenting based on cultural "norms." Besides, I have a hunch that most of us see normal as more idealistic than reality finds it. Instead, let's cling to the truth.  Let's…
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Loving Others

When You Go Back

No matter how well our parents raised us, it's inevitable that we now have different ideas about life - especially when it comes to kids.  Last year, my husband, daughter and I stayed home for Christmas and enjoyed it immensely.  This year we planned to do the same but life had other ideas.  Due to a suddenly sick family member we traveled back to our hometown to relive memories, offer…
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Faith

When it Doesn’t Feel Like Christmas

  Maybe it's as simple as unseasonably warm weather or a recent move away from family and friends.  Or perhaps as sobering as a relative who just entered the hospital.  What do you do when it doesn't feel like Christmas? When "blah" best describes your mood? All three of the above situations are currently putting a damper on my joy to the world.  I want to sit and sulk or…
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Indulging in Skipping

Do you ever desperately want to skip out on something?  A lunch date, a concert, a work meeting, brushing your preschooler's teeth?  While we cannot often indulge in skipping without serious consequences - broken friendships, lack of culture, getting fired or a huge dental bill and mommy guilt - sometimes skipping something you're "supposed" to go to is just the indulgence you need to remain sane. And that's just what…
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A Word About Miracles & Milestones

I've never instructed my daughter to use her imagination; I don't even remember when imaginative play is supposed to begin.  This, in and of itself, is a small miracle.  The perfectionist in me, coupled with a few developmental psych classes wants to look up every possible "milestone" and help my kiddo reach it as early as possible.  Thankfully, copious amounts of spit-up, mustard colored poop, sleepless nights and a few…
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Parenting

Christmas Hiding Place

I'm not a fan of Christmas parties.  Or exchanging presents.  What can I say?  I'm an introvert and the thought of plastering a smile on my face and forcing my way through small talk (which I also hate) is brutal.  Making sure I give a socially acceptable response to a present I open is even worse.  Even if I love the gift, I'm not naturally emotionally expressive so it becomes…
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